We’re gathering here wisdom and resources on communication, grief, loss and more. We’ll update this page as we learn. Please share resources you’ve found valuable using the Reply / Comments section below.
- Grief and Waves. Excerpt:
Alright, here goes. I’m old. What that means is that I’ve survived (so far) and a lot of people I’ve known and loved did not. I’ve lost friends, best friends, acquaintances, co-workers, grandparents, mom, relatives, teachers, mentors, students, neighbors, and a host of other folks. I have no children, and I can’t imagine the pain it must be to lose a child. But here’s my two cents. I wish I could say you get used to people dying. I never did. I don’t want to. Read full content . . .
- When your dearly departed loved one may not be so lovely. Excerpt:
Is it possible to grieve someone you mostly struggled with, where only a few positive memories pale when compared with the dark, negative experiences? Read full article . . .
- How not to say the wrong thing. Known as “Comfort IN — dump OUT” or as the “Ring Theory of Kvetching” — it works in all kinds of crises — medical, legal, even existential. Read the article . . .
- Talking to a loved one with dementia. If you have a loved one with Alzheimer’s or dementia, then you know how difficult it can be to communicate with him or her. This article provides techniques that can be used improve communication with the person you love. You’ll learn about redirection, validation therapy and more. Read the article . . .
Death and Dying
- Dying has its own biology and symptoms. In “The Symptoms of Dying” Dr. Sara Manning Peskin tells us that “Dying has its own biology and symptoms. It’s a diagnosis in itself. While the weeks and days leading up to death can vary from person to person, the hours before death are similar across the vast majority of human afflictions.” She describes the “death rattle” and more. Read the article . . .
- Who Dies by Stephen Levine and Ondrea Levine. From Amazon.com: Who Dies? is the first book to show the reader how to open to the immensity of living with death, to participate fully in life as the perfect preparation for whatever may come next. The Levines provide calm compassion rather than the frightening melodrama of death.
- The Grace in Dying: A message of hope, comfort and spiritual transformation by Kathleen Singh. From Amazon.com: In this brilliantly conceived and beautifully written book, Kathleen Dowling Singh illuminates the profound psychological and spiritual transformations experiences by the dying as the natural process of death reconnects them with the source of their being.
- The New York Times article ‘The Good Death,’ ‘When Breath Becomes Air’ and More (February 2016) reviews DEATH’S SUMMER COAT: What the History of Death and Dying Can Tell Us About Life and Living, by Brandy Schillace; THE GOOD DEATH: An Exploration of Dying in America, by Ann Neumann; IN THE SLENDER MARGIN: The Intimate Strangeness of Death and Dying, by Eve Joseph; THE ICEBERG, by Marion Coutts; and WHEN BREATH BECOMES AIR, by Paul Kalanithi. Read the article . . .
- The New York Times article I’m Dying Up Here: Books on How to Grieve and How to Die (June 2017) reviews GOOD GRIEF: Heal Your Soul, Honor Your Loved Ones, and Learn to Live Again, by Theresa Caputo and Kristina Grish; and RESILIENT GRIEVING: Finding Strength and Embracing Life After a Loss That Changes Everything, by Lucy Hone. Read the article . . .